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Old 26 May 2015, 10:37
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What I am trying to write is that I don't believe in psychology. I have a degree in it (a BS in BS). I believe that what we need are friends. Not sympathy. Not patronizing, coddling. But friends who won't judge you for your moment of faltering under the ruck, and will simply quietly shoulder some of your weight for you, and the unspoken agreement is that everyone knows that when you have the chance to do so, you'll step in to shoulder someone's ruck too.

Those of you who've been under the ruck know of what I refer to. I don't need to explain. As such, fuck a bunch of therapists. Go help a friend....
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Old 30 May 2015, 11:41
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This thread is humbling.

IMO this checklist not only addresses issues related to suicide, but in general good healthy living practices and related to the wisdom in this thread - relying on family, friends, peers to help through difficult times. It focuses on improved sleep, gratitude, play/being in nature, man's best friend, etc. I hope it is helpful.

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Old 8 June 2015, 16:42
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I just got home from burying my nephew who took his own life. He was only 29. It was awesome to see how many of his friends drive for hours to attend his funeral. It was a testament to the man he was, which makes it that much worse. Such a great kid/man who cut his life too short. I can image how many more lives he could have touched in the future, guess we will never know.

Please if suicide ever runs through your mind reach out to another member on this board, a friend, family member or battle buddy. My phone is on 24/7.
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Old 8 June 2015, 22:36
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Chimo,

Very sorry for your loss.
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Old 30 August 2015, 09:27
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Old 30 August 2015, 09:29
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Chimo, condolences.
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Old 30 August 2015, 14:58
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Chimo, condolences on your loss.
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Old 30 August 2015, 21:33
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Chimo...sorry for your loss pal. It's a terrible thing that happens much too often.
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Old 30 August 2015, 21:54
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Chimo,

Prayers out to you and your family.

Fuck cancer is a mantra on this site, I hope "fuck suicide" will become another one...

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Old 31 August 2015, 11:18
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Chimo, I under stand what you an your family are going thru

Prayers out to you and your family.
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Old 19 September 2015, 21:00
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Article today in the NYT.

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/09/20/us...help.html?_r=0
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Old 19 September 2015, 23:36
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I responded to a call last week of "my husband is lying on the kitchen floor bleeding from the wrist and a plastic bag over his head".

Slit his wrists in the basement. Ton of blood but nothing that would be a fatal amount. Must have decided that wasn't working and then went to the kitchen where he suffocated himself with a plastic bag.

2 cops were doing CPR when I got there.

His 4 y/o daughter found him when his wife came home with her.

He had visited the VA that morning for treatment due to a mental health diagnosis and had recently been hospitalized for same.

He was an Army 0-3 according to the ID card. Real nice house. His civilian job was in some sort of logistics role.

Rescue worked him hard all the way to the hospital where ER worked him for another 30 minutes.

As The thread says: Get help or call a buddy. Call me. Call someone you hate. Just call someone.
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Old 20 September 2015, 09:30
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I like it.

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Old 20 September 2015, 17:01
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Ferryman,

I read that article in the NYT about the 2/7, and other articles in other papers.

In general, posting a link without comments is a no go on this site.

That said, I am still saddened that men who served our Country think this is their best way to be... I don't know what those Marines wanted..

And now I have two:

Fuck Cancer,

Fuck Suicide.

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Old 20 September 2015, 17:39
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We have to stop allowing the machine to push us to the VA -- the VA is neither equipped to respond, nor does it care. Only WE care.

I won't lie -- I've had my share of dark thoughts. Still have them. But what keeps me happily trodding through this strange journey that is life, is friends. Family might want to help, but how can they? Who in your family understands you? Friends do, especially those like us.

I have my support team. Its small, but I know that if I reach out, I won't be ignored. Its our responsibility to be the same to someone else. Don't coddle. Don't patronize. Don't judge. Just be a friend. I think that is more than enough....
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Old 20 September 2015, 19:07
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For me the biggest take-away from the NYT article is the use of social media in reaching out. My old Battalion has a very active Facebook page where lots of dudes have reached out for no-shit help, or just to talk things through. It's definitely been beneficial for a lot of us.
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Just read about 2/7 in the Stan-2008. No one understands unless you have been 'there'.
Being in CAP in Nam and interacting with the people and running ambushes every night I think was a different feeling or story for us.msybe we came home with a different feeling in our heart's and mind's.
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Old 30 December 2015, 14:51
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This is one of the best threads I have seen in my 5+ years on this site. SB - my already high respect for you has increased immensely. I was consistently wrecking my life and relationships up until 2008 when I finally realized much of what has been spoken in this thread. Has made such a difference. Fucking awesome.

[QUOTE=Silverbullet;1058473415] My suggestion is that anyone who has suffered any type of head trauma or the effects of a blast get checked for TBI. [QUOTE]

Yes!!! My TWO TBI's were found only when I had an MRI of my brain during a cancer appointment. They found two different residual brain bruises on my brain stem. Finally understood why I couldn't smell, taste, couldn't control upward eye movement, etc. Also understood a big part of the reason I was so fucked up, half retarded, and mean.

Knowing, understanding, and employing healthy compensatory measures are so important.
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Old 17 January 2016, 00:40
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Bump. Because somethings always need to be at the front of people's minds.
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Old 17 January 2016, 01:55
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Here's to a year of no one hurting themselves..


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