|
||
#21
|
||||
|
||||
Quote:
I know of a Frog friend whom never served overseas, yet he smooth-submitted his claims via his polished fingers and ended up with a VA comp. Whereas, in comparison, if I submitted I would get zilch because, fortunately, I never earned a Purple Heart, and I am not dick with a key board. |
#22
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
|
#23
|
|||
|
|||
The PJ's on here can and will help you out.
However, I'll be the contrarian here and find your (lila222) kinda distasteful. You know him as a "exaggerator" and "grandiose", suspect him of having "mental issues" yet have "been with him for years" and now all of a sudden this is distasteful. Bullshit. I'm sure you've never lied to him as well. Regardless of whether he is a poser or not, whatever happened to "for better or worse"? What are you really trying to do? |
#24
|
||||
|
||||
Quote:
__________________
We don’t derive our purpose from our work, we bring our purpose TO our work. |
#25
|
|||
|
|||
Fair enough. I expected it.
|
#26
|
||||
|
||||
Not really, I think many here reading this probably had the same thought in the back of their minds.
The whole situation is pretty messed up on many levels.
__________________
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. "Look Sharp, Act Sharp, Be Sharp - But don't cut yourself!" To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. |
#27
|
||||
|
||||
Like I said, my opinion.
The lady has a suspicion that her husband (is at some level) a fraud. When my gut tells me that I'm being lied to I do the same thing, try to confirm.
__________________
We don’t derive our purpose from our work, we bring our purpose TO our work. |
#28
|
||||
|
||||
Quote:
I was one of the original Vetting Team of many years ago. I vetted so many distressed pleas from girlfriends and wives that I could tell the lies and bullshit upfront the male companion was trying to sell the female. To the degree there were even those posers whom came in pairs, with one telling the service lies and a second at another email address backing up the original lies. In my own current hometown some geek passed himself off to his wife as a SEAL. I went at him via phone. His reason for being "unknown, unseen" was that he was "Black Ops" and he had been in BUDS Class 2. Which meant this geek should of been my age. No one is as old as me. Ultimately this fuckstick had his phone removed to get away from me. In comparison my own wife knew little about my Military/Government history. I wanted it that way. Home was home and career was career. They did not have to mix for me to be pleased with my role in life. There was a point in my marriage when my wife pushed an issue. From this issue I realized my wife thought I was a clerk working for the boss (me). I let it go. She was a good wife. ![]() I no longer vet service. Do not contact me. I cannot type. I do not know how to use a computer. I lie a lot. |
#29
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
...if on the other hand, this is all B.S., trust SOCNET to sort it all out. JMHO fkl |
#30
|
|||
|
|||
Ok, I get this and I expected this a bit too. I'm aware that I'm being sneaky by investigating this and hiding it from him. It came up because someone contacted me and said he was reporting my husband for stolen valor. I don't know who this other person is, what his motivations are, or if he's full of it too. I have not responded to this other person and initially viewed him as just someone who didn't like my husband trying to cause issues. However, in the back of my mind, the doubts I'd had about my husband came back and I started looking into stolen valor. I did not realize the severity of it, that people had gone to jail over it, and that what I had thought of as harmless exaggeration could carry quite severe consequences. The more I looked into it myself, the more I realized he could quite well be defrauding the VA, which I'd (perhaps foolishly) thought was impossible. I have no military background, and I am out of my league. I did as much research on my own as I could, then came here and laid it all out. I wanted people to tell me I was wrong, to say how dare I question someone who had done so much good for our country. However, as I'm hearing, it sounds like he has deceived me and is stealing the benefits and respect that actual veterans deserve. I'm sure he did serve at some level, and I wish he had just left it at that. He would still have been a hero to me. But now that I've uncovered this, I'm angry that he lied and I'm overwhelmed by what to do. I didn't just come here on a whim one day to badmouth him. I've never posted any identifying info about him, as if my suspicions were wrong I didn't want anything on the internet that would slander his name. But now I'm in the position that I do love this man but my conscience tells me I can't just look the other way anymore. That's why I want to be absolutely certain before I do anything. Trust me, I want to be wrong. I want you to laugh me out of the room for doubting him. This is far from easy to hear. It also leaves me in the spot of now I have to do something. I can't just take his claims with a grain of salt anymore. My motivation in being here is something I've avoided confronting for years- whether there was a chance he was telling the truth. I thank you all for your insight, even it is doubtful or negative.
|
#31
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
![]() |
#32
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
I understand a little better. Tough decision. |
#33
|
||||
|
||||
Quote:
Often VIP's or lateral Ops Managers would pass thru my town for briefings. It was an expected and pleasurable task to invite the overnight motel visitor to my home for dinner and drinks. This was both a professional expectation and a welcome to many Ops Managers a distance from the core Ops crowd. However, it was a given that as I may be driving my guest group to my home it was always asked as a matter of security, "Is your wife witting?" Meaning, how much does she know so we as the guests can limit our social conversation. I easily advised that my wife knew for whom I worked, but not my ops or mission. ~ This was an easy given. My wife knew nothing about Government, Black Ops, Cover Stories, handsome husbands. The Unit I was C/Station was way out from the Intel Crowd. She just wanted a good guy and I hope I have done that. |
#34
|
||||
|
||||
Cass:
Brother, my money is on you being a great husband! ![]() Terry
__________________
"IF THOU STRIKETH THE KING, STRIKE NOT TO WOUND": |
#35
|
||||
|
||||
Cass, you've been an example of how to be a real Man & Husband that any and all of us can only hope to emulate.
Lila222, If you've determined to move forward with plumbing and exposing the depths of your husband's deceit, then there are people here on SOCnet who can help you with that. Best thing is to keep all personally-identifying information off the open net, and communicate mostly by the private messaging system here. Rest assured that having a General Discharge, even if under honorable conditions, is NEVER code for anything other than what amounts to his having been kicked out of the service. He was an undesirable, but not bad enough to get himself a Dishonorable discharge. If his DD214 says he got out in 1998, that's when he ended his active duty. It is possible that he had more service as a Reservist or in the National Guard, but in 98 we were still reducing the size of the force, they were in no way eager to retain people. Getting into the Guard or Reserves as a General Discharge type would have been... likely impossible. Are you uncertain as to what your husband was doing for work from 98 onward? If you can find his tax records, look at who issued his W2 forms for each tax year. It is a sure bet that none of them are from the military. Maybe he was doing his Black Ops for free? Or maybe they were so classified that he was paid by a shell company called Pete's Trucking?
__________________
. "To the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee, for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee" Melville / Captain Ahab |
#36
|
||||
|
||||
Quote:
__________________
Quote:
19 Oct 2017 |
#37
|
|||
|
|||
I'm asking. Will one of the BTDT PJs on this Board PM lila222, get his PII data, and actually verify that he is a poser? It's more than important. Once that which we all know to be true is done, please PM me.
|
#38
|
|||
|
|||
lila222,
Are you legit in your questions, or trying to set up (a) SOCNET member(s) or your 'husband'? I'm skeptical in you posting here as this site isn't common knowledge. How did you come to SOCNET? Prior military? Your profile and intro post was lacking in this info. I only ask these questions as this forum is special to me and I don't want to see any members get screwed over. If you are legitimate in your quest this is the place to get your answers. Last edited by Sgt Jeep; 18 December 2015 at 19:05. Reason: disregard my post. I didn't see your explanation. I apologize and good luck! |
#39
|
|||
|
|||
Quote:
I have also been looking into the 2 guys who vouched for him, and one in particular concerns me. It has occurred to me that perhaps my husband isn't the only one these guys have helped. |
#40
|
|||
|
|||
Lol, no sorry, that is one thing I can say with certainty that isn't us. :)
|
![]() |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|